I am that girl that spends countless hours on TikTok at night. . . heck, you've probably seen my videos pop up. So when this trend came across my feed, I knew I had to do it. I dueted the video idea I liked and shared it all over my Facebook. Que miss Ashley.
Ashley happens to be my mini session giveaway winner. I met her for the first time when she brought in her amazing kiddo for Valentine's photos. She too was scrolling through social media and saw my callout for someone to come in last minute and model these for me. Boy am I glad she did.
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We live in a world FULL of shaming. In the words of Kacey Musgraves. . .
"If you save yourself for marriage, you're a bore
If you don't save yourself for marriage, you're a horrible person
If you won't have a drink, then you're a prude
But they'll call you a drunk as soon as you down the first one
If you can't lose the weight, then you're just fat
But if you lose too much, then you're on crack"
"If you save yourself for marriage, you're a bore
If you don't save yourself for marriage, you're a horrible person
If you won't have a drink, then you're a prude
But they'll call you a drunk as soon as you down the first one
If you can't lose the weight, then you're just fat
But if you lose too much, then you're on crack"
STOP IT
I mean it. What is the purpose or point of putting others down?
Is it to make yourself feel better about your flaws?
Is it to make yourself look better because you feel like shit?
Is it a cover up?
Whatever the reasons are, they're are excuses and they are pointless. Ashley told me she isn't comfortable with herself because she's too skinny. We don't think of that half of the seesaw. Most women out there are dying to lose weight, but we seem to forget that their are others out there struggling to put weight on.
I mean it. What is the purpose or point of putting others down?
Is it to make yourself feel better about your flaws?
Is it to make yourself look better because you feel like shit?
Is it a cover up?
Whatever the reasons are, they're are excuses and they are pointless. Ashley told me she isn't comfortable with herself because she's too skinny. We don't think of that half of the seesaw. Most women out there are dying to lose weight, but we seem to forget that their are others out there struggling to put weight on.
I've been there. If you knew me in high school, I was SKINNY. I wore a size 3 jeans, had no boobs and no butt. I felt amazing.
Now, I'm in a 15 year (and counting) relationship and I had 2 kids. I look at myself now compared to then and I do what we all do - I wish I could go back in time and keep that metabolism and be skinny again. I look in the mirror and see my flaws - the muffin top, the thicker thighs, the stomach that hangs over all of my pants.
But I also see what made me that way.
The stretchmarks from having my 2 gorgeous, amazing children. The bigger boobs, the plumper booty - if you ask my husband, he made them LOL.
But I also know my husband doesn't look at me any different now than he did then.
Well, he does, but in a better way. He sees the mother of his children. He sees the woman that became comfortable enough with him to let go a bit and not be so self conscious about how much food she's eating or the exercises she isn't doing.
Now, I'm in a 15 year (and counting) relationship and I had 2 kids. I look at myself now compared to then and I do what we all do - I wish I could go back in time and keep that metabolism and be skinny again. I look in the mirror and see my flaws - the muffin top, the thicker thighs, the stomach that hangs over all of my pants.
But I also see what made me that way.
The stretchmarks from having my 2 gorgeous, amazing children. The bigger boobs, the plumper booty - if you ask my husband, he made them LOL.
But I also know my husband doesn't look at me any different now than he did then.
Well, he does, but in a better way. He sees the mother of his children. He sees the woman that became comfortable enough with him to let go a bit and not be so self conscious about how much food she's eating or the exercises she isn't doing.
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The only one that sees our flaws are OURSELVES.
Read that again.
We look in the mirror and see them daily. We put ourselves down enough as it is. We don't need help with that.
We as women need to start celebrating each other. Instead of putting each other down, tell someone what you love about her.
Compliment her mom bun.
Tell her she's beautiful with her bare face.
Notice that she looks good in those baggy sweatpants and band tee.
We are our biggest critics and we need to get out of it.
Read that again.
We look in the mirror and see them daily. We put ourselves down enough as it is. We don't need help with that.
We as women need to start celebrating each other. Instead of putting each other down, tell someone what you love about her.
Compliment her mom bun.
Tell her she's beautiful with her bare face.
Notice that she looks good in those baggy sweatpants and band tee.
We are our biggest critics and we need to get out of it.
See that smile? That is why I do what I do.
Ashley saw these photos and was taken away by them. Sometimes it takes stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something off the cuff, but this is what I strive for.
I want you to see what the world sees. A gorgeous girl doing her best to survive each day. That shiny smile. The gleam in your eyes.
THE CONFIDENCE.
Ashley, you are a Rockstar. You are beautiful inside and out.
Let the real you shine <3
Ashley saw these photos and was taken away by them. Sometimes it takes stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something off the cuff, but this is what I strive for.
I want you to see what the world sees. A gorgeous girl doing her best to survive each day. That shiny smile. The gleam in your eyes.
THE CONFIDENCE.
Ashley, you are a Rockstar. You are beautiful inside and out.
Let the real you shine <3
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